Hey babes! Welcome back to another blog post and if you’re reading this thank you for taking your time to stop by. As the New Year unfolds we want to align ourselves with good energy and positive vibes meaning we must leave behind all the negative energy, negative traits and even negative people. Sometimes we care too much about people, love too hard or simply believe in them without being able to notice the damage they’re causing us. Love can be blind and this affection doesn’t specifically need to be in a romantic way, it can also be friendly.
There comes a time in our life were we realize that we must cut ties with someone we love because either they’re no longer good for us and they’re causing us more harm than good. Often times we might even find ourselves in denial trying to force this relationship or friendship because we’re so focused on making it work that we are not taking the time to realize how much it’s actually hurting us. Being with someone who is toxic can be so draining, all that negative energy that will eventually catch up to you.
“Negative people suck all the positivity out of our lives and the longer we allow them to dwell in our orbit, the more they take”
Toxic people you should get rid of:
- They make you feel ashamed about yourself
- You’re emotionally affected by their drama
- You dread being around them
- Being with them can be exhausting
- You’re stuck in a cycle trying to rescue, fix or care for this person or the relationship
- Spread negativity
- They criticize you all the time
- They play the victim
- They keep disappointing you
- Self –centered
If you feel there is someone in your life who is toxic and their behavior or actions are affecting you then it’s time to let them go. Letting go of people you care or love can be difficult especially when there is history, however just because you guys have history that doesn’t mean you should feel stuck in a friendship or relationship where you are mentally exhausted. Toxic people can be dangerous – they are dangerous to our inner peace.
Identifying toxic people in our life
A toxic friendship: that friend who is always contradicting you, blaming you, trying to control you, unsupportive, doesn’t put effort into the relationship but expects you to do all the work, lets you down, selfish, negative, you always help them but they can’t help you, wants things their way
A toxic relationship: verbally or physically abusive, extremely jealous, unsupportive, makes you feel unworthy, makes you feel ugly, calls you names, lies, keeps you away from family/friends, someone who stops you from following your dreams, controlling, emotionally drains you, you can’t be yourself, they scare you, you don’t feel safe
I have dealt with both toxic friendships and a toxic relationship. They can sure be draining and exhausting. I was stuck in a toxic relationship for years, stuck in a cycle I felt there was no way out but it wasn’t until I made the decision that it was not okay and that I deserved better. It was then that I had to courage to walk away. It sure wasn’t easy, but I decided to put myself first for my own well-being.
A friendship that is abusive, where that persona takes away so much from you but they can’t offer the same back. I was there for them without questions asked, but when I needed something that person never came around, she was never there for me. A friendship that was only a one way, what they wanted – a bit selfish I would say. I dedicated a lot of my time to this person, which I didn’t mind at all, but when that effort wasn’t reciprocated it hurt. A lot of the times I felt drained and always worrying about the things to say or when was the next argument happening. I truly cared about this person and it took a lot for me to realize that the friendship had become toxic. I slowly stepped away took my distance for my own sanity and it’s sad to say, but I’m glad I did. Now we don’t even talk.
“Until you let go of all the toxic people in your life you will never be able to grow into your fullest potential. Let them go so you can grow”
Know that it’s okay to walk away even from those that you love. Sometimes those who you love are not the best people for you to be around especially when they don’t appreciate you and bring you harm. Letting go of those toxic people in your life may come with guilt, but it is the right thing to do if it’s going to bring you peace of mind and happiness. Letting go of people who are not good for you is brave, not everyone has the courage to pull away. Take control of your life; remove those who are bringing you down or causing you harm. There is no room for those types of people in 2020. Removing toxic people from your life will be liberating. I did it, I walked away and I have no regrets. Those people stayed behind for a reason and since I have felt more at peace and happy that I chose myself.