What I learned in the Last Year
First of all, Happy New Year! I hope everyone had an amazing holiday season, spent time with their family and enjoyed all the delicious food. Now let’s hustle!
So I think we can all agree that man oh man was 2019 quite the year, but did you die? Ha! If you’re reading this today then you didn’t which means despite all your struggles, you made it! 2019 was a year of blessings yet difficulties not just for myself, but for many.
Let me tell you a little bit about my year – I started 2019 engaged, yes engaged to my boyfriend of seven years. I was shocked, excited and ultimately happy, something I was truly not expecting. Never in a million years would I have thought I was going to be welcoming 2019 as a fiancé. Wedding talks followed and it was decided that we would be getting married in September of 2019 therefore, the next few months were going to be crazy planning an entire wedding. The wedding planning added stress, frustrations but overall it was an amazing and memorable experience (stay tune as wedding blogs will be coming soon).
Overall 2019 was a very busy year, but in May things got a little out of hand. Unfortunately I had to leave the place I called home and had to move to a place farther away than I wanted, live with strangers and deal with some very stressful situations, which I won’t get into details. The next three months of my life were the toughest, I questioned everything, I was lost and I didn’t see a way out. I was pushed into a situation I had no say, but I knew everything around me was happening in order to help someone I loved so much.
During those months all I wanted was for time to just speed up and for things to finally fall in place, I wanted a place to call home. Eventually in August things finally started falling into place. I found an apartment, which meant the world to me because I finally had a place I could call home. After settling in the new place a little after a month I married my best friend and it was the best day of my life. It was such a magical day, but what made it so special was being surround by so much love and support from family and friends who were genuinely there for us. A week after the wedding I started a new job. I was blessed with an amazing opportunity that I had been waiting for, something I prayed for.
So many things were happening at once, some good and some not so good, but finally for once I had some clarity. I was sitting in my own living room, in my own space at peace with my husband knowing that I finally was doing something I truly enjoyed. I realized I was blessed more than blessed my heart was full of joy and gratitude. For months I was stressed wanting time to just pass, wanting things to fall in place and have some time to relax. Well that time eventually came.
“When it rains it pours, but the sun always shines”
During this time I also realized the true meaning of friendship, and some of those friendships didn’t make it to 2020. In 2019 I realized that often times I give so much of myself to others and that isn’t reciprocated. I reach out, I give my time, I try and I realized that I wasn’t getting that effort back. I stopped doing certain things and that’s when I realized that those who want to be there for you will find a way to make time for you and those who don’t really care will unfortunately just fade away. The older I get I’ve come to realize that friends don’t stay, your circle gets smaller, but I’ve also come to appreciate those who have stuck around. They are the people who matter and the friends I need in my life.
Quality over quantity any time.
2019, what a year such a blessing in disguised. All the good and the ugly it all matters one way or another. The bad times made me appreciate the good in my life and it also made me tougher and stronger. We seriously don’t know how strong we can be until being strong is all we can do. Today I know that if I was able to overcome the struggles from this past year along all the other obstacles from the past I know I can over come anything that comes my way. I’m starting this new year, new decade with a clearer vision, clear mindset and determination. A lot can change and happen in 10-years, and I’m proud of what I have accomplished, but there is still so much more I want to do. I’m taking care of myself, pursuing what makes me happy, a little selfish? Maybe, but so what I’m finding my happiness and so should you. I’m staying healthy, drinking my water, spending quality time with family and friends, working on my marriage and having some fun. 2020 is a butterfly year, the year I’m taking action and making moves.
If 2019 was not your year, don’t worry leave it behind. Focus in the present, the now, what you want to accomplish, but also hustle and work hard for it. Stay positive and know that you’re not alone. 2020 we here, let’s do this!