Tomorrow Is Not Promised – Losing A Loved One

Tomorrow Is Not Promised – Losing A Loved One

I’m sitting here with a heavy heart thinking about this tragedy and the legend we have all lost, Kobe Bryant. On Sunday, January 26, 2020 Bryant died in a helicopter crash along with his daughter Gianna who was 13-years old and seven other passengers. Kobe’s death took everyone by surprised and left an entire nation in shock. Today Los Angeles is mourning an icon that inspired so many lives. You didn’t have to know about basketball to know who Kobe Bryant was especially if you live in Los Angeles.

Bryant played for the LA Lakers for 20-years. After this tragedy Los Angeles will never be the same without Kobe. Living in LA my entire life I grew up with Kobe, he was a hero for so many. There was no basketball without him. He sure will be missed.

Today I pray for him, his daughter, his wife and family, but also for the families of the other passengers. This incident has shown us that you can have it all, but tomorrow is never promised.

Death, something no one likes to think about, but something we will all experience at some point of our lives. Death is inevitable. We don’t know when our last day in this earth might be so we should enjoy each day and make the best of each day because tomorrow is never guaranteed.

Luckily I haven’t lost many people in my life that I’ve cared for except for one, and damn was it tough. Five years ago I lost a dear friend, someone very special. As I sit here writing this I can’t believe it has already been five years since I lost you, but there is not a day I don’t think about you. I miss you dearly.

I will never forget that day when I found out you were no longer here with us. It was so surreal the same feeling I felt on Sunday knowing that Kobe is no longer here. I had just talked to you not so long ago and we had just celebrated my birthday a few weeks ago and I couldn’t wrap around my head the idea of you no longer being here. I had never lost someone so close to me, someone I cared for, a friend and I didn’t know what to feel – I was in shock.

I didn’t cry and I wasn’t sad because I couldn’t believe it. I thought it was all a joke and out of nowhere you were going to call or something. The joke was on me, my heart broke when I saw you there in that casket. No laugh, no smile it was then when it hit me and I broke down. Loosing someone is a process you never get over it or stop missing them you just learn to live without them. Five years later and I still can’t believe you’re no longer here.

 He was something else for sure this guy was the funniest person I knew. He always made me laugh; he was always in a good mood, saying the dumbest things just to make others laugh. He was the life of the party, he was a great friend, and he was an amazing father.

We meet in middle school, but we didn’t really become friends until we were in high school. Once we started talking and became friends we never stopped and I’m so thankful for that, your friendship and the time we spent together. Throughout all those years he always managed to call me and text me on my birthday, make me laugh and just be my friend.

I’m so glad we remained friends even after high school. It’s been five years that you’ve been gone and I miss you so much, I miss not getting your birthday texts or calls. I wish I had told you how much I cared for you and appreciated you and your friendship. Now I just hope you knew that.

I regret not spending more time, talking more often and telling you how much I appreciated you. It’s too late now. But it makes me happy to know that we always kept in touch and despite how much our lives changed we always found the time to talk and hang out. I’m never going to forget your laugh, the time you gave me, the memories we made and all those years of friendship. Thank you!

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“The most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great in whatever they want to do”

– Kobe Bryant

See life is crazy one day we are here and another we might not. Loosing this friend made me realize that I had to appreciate my loved ones and let them know how much I cared and love them. Not just tell them, but also show them. We get so caught up on our daily routines that we often forget to actually live.

Shoes, clothes, titles, money it all comes and goes, but family someone you care and love they don’t. Once you lose them they’re gone. Enjoy your time with those you love, make memories, spend more time together let them know how special they are to you.

My mom always tells me something along these lines, bring me flowers now that I’m alive and I can enjoy them not when I’m dead and won’t be able to smell them. 

Kobe our hearts are with you and you will never be forgotten.

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